Nadiah Alwi

A picture tells it all…

Picture by: Glenda Otero, Argentina

Wonder how it tastes. It looks so yummy.

Beautiful food photography by Dave Edmonds from Bristol, UK.

In my country, we serve avocado sweet, either with syrups, sugar, or sweetened milk.

Photo by: Sebastian Pothe

In my opinion, husband-and-wife relationship is a very personal matter. You can’t share it with just anyone. In my religion, it’s even better to keep it for yourself.

I have a friend who told me that she regreted telling her marriage problem to another friend of hers. ‘Coz, instead of simply listening — as how she wanted it — the friend judged her.

“What do you see in him? Just leave him.”

My friend was stunned. She didn’t expect such a response.

Is it that easy leaving a marriage? All she wanted was someone to listen to her, to give her a ‘lil bit of empathy.

Oh, dear friend. You shouldn’t have told her about it at the first place. What happen to you and your hubby is your secret to keep. Unless, you can’t help it anymore. But, it’s better to seek some solutions from an expert, for example, or some marriage counselor. Because, you never know how people might react to your story.

And, I told her. “Dear, if ever you get such a question again, make sure you answer it the right way.”

“How?” she asked.

“Say: I see what you don’t see.”

She gets quiet.

It is true, rite? That when you decide to stay in a marriage, there are things that only you can see, that make you survive no matter what. Well, maybe it’s for the kids. Or, maybe, it’s simply him (or her). Something in your spouse that in your eyes still has values.

So, just be careful in telling people about what happen between you and your husband.

Picture by: Brano Hudak, Slovakia

These days, many people do their work from home. It’s done remotely using the computer and the net. Not only part time jobs. But also full time ones.

I’ve done both.

In full time remote jobs, written communication is highly important. ‘Coz everything is done by email, YM, and other oneline devices.

It’s quite challenging, you know. You have to make everything clear simply by words. No gesture, no expression, nothing. Only words between you and those other people.

Many might think that it’s easy peasy. But it’s actually risky. Especially with those who don’t have the same level of understanding with you. It’s a hard hard work. You might be struggling.

What to do then? Make sure that your co-workers are on the same level of understanding with you. It helps minimize misunderstandings among you. It doesn’t mean that there will be no miss-communication at all. There might be some. But at least, you don’t have to get stressed every time you try to communicate with them.

Work remotely? It’s possible. With certain kind of people .