Normally, I see a person as one whole entity. But, there is something–I can’t tell you here–that will soon make me see a person differently.
I will create certain bounderies regarding how I see him/her. Why so?
I need to do that to make me feel comfortable, to make him/her at ease.
I bet, you have done it, you just don’t realize that you have.
For example, you fall in love. For you, everything about him/her is wonderful. Then, on the following dates, you see another side of him/her that shocks you. Yet, because of your love for him/her, you tend to ignore that surprisingly unpleasant other side.
See, I told you…you have been in that particular position. Either purposely or unexpextedly.
Of course, my case has nothing to do with love. Yet, the point is, I mean no harm. Seeing him/her only from A to J instead of A to Z will simply make things easier.
So, how do you see a person?
Sometimes, we need to see a person not as one whole entity. It will easier for us to get close with him/her. For example: try to see a person from his/her dominant good personality, not from a pieces of bad habit that she/he have.
For me, I just let it flows for awhile. That’s why I think first impression is very important. And then I try to be realistic and rational for no body’s perfect. But mostly I try to see people’s strength than their weakness.
Totally agree with both of you, Mas Jafar & Otty.
It’s easier seeing a person from his/her good personality and strength.